Absolute Integrity was another very important common distinction that was shared by all three exceptional leaders Moses, Jesus Christ and Mohammed The Prophet, (as mentioned in the Leadership Introduction page.) The importance of integrity has been established for thousands of years, and it has been one of the determining factors in Leadership Development.
After we are born, and by the time we utter our first words and begin to walk, our parents start to curb our actions and or behaviors by telling us what we are doing right or wrong.
As we start to mature, depending on our age and emotional level, our parents implement a system of rewards and punishment.
Based on our behavior, we are rewarded or punished. We begin to learn what works, what does not work, what we can get away with, and what we do that can have painful consequences.
As children, we don’t know many things about our brand new world, and we tend to seek pleasure and entertainment all the time. After all, isn’t this what our parents have been providing us since we are born?
Remember how parents will do baby talk? Goo-goo, ga-ga, and then smile, make funny faces in order to get us to laugh? Then as we start growing up they sit us in front of the television so that we can watch TV in order to keep us entertained and busy so that they can do grown up things, such as chores, cook, laundry, etc
In addition, there are those cultures where the family has a level of economic affluence and they have maids, and nannies that are assigned the task of caring for babies. As babies, we mostly think about doing all the things that bring us pleasure.
The point is that we receive an invisible template from our parents, caregivers, and persons of authority that have already incorporated their own beliefs and experiences into this invisible template. This template now contains their experiences of what works and what does not work. In addition, they have also included into it emotional triggers, responses and reactions on how to do deal with situations that have no pleasure and with situations that have too much pain. It seems that most of these invisible templates come either with pleasure or pain.
We then start to experience life for ourselves, and based on our environments, (which is what I truly believe shapes us), we then start to change, adjust and customize this template to become our own personal self with our own self-made identity. We become who we have chosen to be.
When I think about this invisible template, I think about the Word Document templates that come standard with MS Office. You can create your own custom templates or you can change, adjust and or adapt the template to suit your needs. It is just a matter of copy/cut and paste. Isn’t this the same thing that we do after we are born, and start to experience our environment? Copy/cut and paste the things that we like, and delete the things that we do not?
Copy and paste the things that give us pleasure and feel good, and mostly cut and delete the things that give us pain. Whatever we become, it has been our choice from day 1.
Most people in our societies are not aware of this, and we have been programmed by television, music, radio, movies, books, propaganda, computers and the internet into believing that what we are and what we are becoming is someone else’s responsibility. It’s not. It is our own individual responsibility to become what we are, and what we believe to be right and no one else’s. This is part of the process of becoming aware that you are a Leader.
So, what is Integrity?
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